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Here, Tracey Cox, Sarah Hedley, Dr Petra Boynton and Katherine Hoyle share their expert knowledge for achieving the Big O...
Tracey Cox, sex author and presenter
“The biggest misconception is that women can have orgasms through intercourse,” says Tracey, “But 70% of women don’t, and that’s totally normal.
“Guys don’t just lie back hoping to have an orgasm – they pick a thrusting style to suit them. Women need to do the same and take control.
“The trick to achieving orgasm is to put pressure on your clitoris by rotating your pelvis during sex.
“Good positions for this are with the woman on top or with the man behind - and if you tighten your pelvic muscles, your orgasm will be more intense.
“These positions are also great for hitting the G spot, which is around the urethra tissue - the part you can feel through the vaginal wall. It’s not miles in like we all previously thought.
“Another good orgasm tip is to give up on trying to climax simultaneously,” explains Tracey.
“Much better to take it in turns so you’re not distracted by what the other person is doing – that’s why a 69er is always better in fantasy!
“And stop thinking of sex having a start, middle and end. You could orgasm from an oral sex session or a quickie against the bathroom wall.
“Keep your mind in the moment and feel rather than think – it will make climaxing much easier.
“If you want more than one orgasm, my best tip is to use different forms of stimulation, otherwise you get desensitised. So orgasm through oral sex, then through your G spot.
“Remember, having sex when you’re drunk means your senses are dulled and your orgasm won’t be as good.”
Sarah Hedley, editor of Scarlett magazine
“The key to having a great orgasm is to get your mind ‘in orgasm mode’ way before you take your clothes off,” says Sarah.
“An orgasm is the release of muscular tension, so the longer you’re mentally aroused for beforehand, the more powerful your climax.
“You need to be sitting on the edge of your seat and dying to have sex.
“So do whatever it takes to turn your mind on – reading a sexy book, having a long shower, looking at the Beckham Armani ad!
“When you finally have sex you’ll be turned on already.
“Another great tip is to get your hands on the Hitachi Magic Wand from somewhere like online shop lovehoney.co.uk.
“It’s a handheld massage device to use on your clitoris.
“The vibrations are so powerful it awakens the power to orgasm, and once you’re able to identify the feeling you can recreate it in other ways.
“Pelvic floor exercises are also great for your ability to orgasm, and many women clench and unclench these muscles throughout the day.”
Dr Petra Boynton, sex and relationship expert
“All orgasms are great,” says Petra. “Thinking of them as brilliant or boring just puts pressure on us.
“The trick is not to strive for something better – we all feel orgasms in different ways.
“My advice is to set aside time to explore orgasms on your own. It’s rare to be unable to orgasm through masturbation.
“A lot of women think it’s cheating to do it in a relationship, but it’s not; it helps you know what you like.
“Then why not try masturbating in front of your partner? If you feel embarrassed, then ask him to do it first.
“Communication is also really important for orgasms – telling a guy when he’s done something right really turns them on.
“But it can be hard to know what to say. How can you moan when he hits the right spot, if he never hits it?
“A solution to this is browsing online together and getting a sex tip book like The Guide To Getting It On by Paul Johannides.
“I think we’ve all become very focussed on orgasms rather than relationships, and if you have a problem with each other, then your sex life will suffer.
“Try to sort any issues in your relationship outside of the bedroom – it will make sex much better.”
Katherine Hoyle, owner of Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium
“Breathing can really affect an orgasm,” says Katherine.
“As you start having sex, your breathing rate increases and we often hold our breath.
“This means you tense up and climaxing is more difficult. If you’re aware of your breathing and try to regulate it, you’ll let go quicker and orgasm.
“A lot of women need more stimulation than their partners to orgasm, and stimulating the clitoris is better than introducing new positions.
“A vibrator is the best thing for this and a lot of women use them.
“Another great new sex toy to help women achieve orgasm is a vibrating ring called The Love Heart that fits around the man’s penis.
“It vibrates on the clitoris during sex and keeps him going for longer too.
“If you want to prolong an orgasm, then tantric sex techniques are the way to go,” reveals Katherine.
“The trick is to find the plateau just before you orgasm, then tease yourself by stopping. This heightens the power of the orgasm.
“So every time you feel yourself getting near to climaxing, come away from it and ask your man to stimulate other erogenous zones like your nipples.
"When you finally let go, the orgasm should be mind-blowing."
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